Home is Where the Heart is!


When I am on Yahoo!, I tend to browse through the hundred odd newsreel items on the homepage. Generally, it’s one or two of them that catch my eye to read further. Today, I happened to click on an interview by Zoe Saldana, the actress.

As I read through it, one of her comments stuck with me. She said, “You just gravitate naturally to what your heart yearns for.”

That is so profound.

As a child, you are like a sponge; ready to absorb and learn everything you come across. You start to form opinions, likes and dislikes. Somewhere along as you get introduced to the world around you, you fantasize about everything you aspire to be when you grow up. Through the years, you develop stronger preferences and are left with a few choices that you want to be when you grow up. Later, as a confused teenager, you look around at what’s in demand and what professions are doing well and that dictates your aspirations. By the time, you gain clarity, you are down the path of what you will eventually graduate in and take on a profession. If that clarity comes to you sooner in life, you are one of the lucky few doing something you really enjoy. If it comes later, you would have bumped around doing a few things that you got into for one reason or the other before you realize where your passion lies. In some instances, you have to continue with what you got yourself into although your heart might be somewhere else.

And that is where what Zoe said, so aptly applies. No matter what you do or where you are in life and how impossible it may seem, you WILL gravitate toward your heart’s natural desire. You will find a way to do what you enjoy most. And when you work in the realm of what you love, it is no longer work. You lose the sense of time and effort and produce your very best, naturally and easily. So, no matter how insurmountable your life’s challenges may seem, keep dreaming, my friend and keep trying. Do not give up or give in! You heart will draw you toward your passion and you will be one with it. This is not my promise, but that of your own heart!

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Have your daily life themes planned for 2013?


You wake up early, probably get some exercise, freshen up & get ready, have a quick bite and grab your coffee on the way out to work. Then, at the office, you spend an entire 8-10 hours tackling what you came for, work. Somewhere in between, you grab a bite for lunch and if you’re lucky, get a coffee during a break. You leave and on the way back, review the day’s proceedings in your head or perhaps, brood over that nasty meeting you endured that noon or mull over how to tackle that timeline problem or resource issue, take your pick. You make it home in the evening, acknowledge your family with a faint smile and go over to freshen up and change. Next, you grab a cup of coffee or your favorite beverage, park yourself in the couch and hit the TV remote. Your spouse wants to share their day and your kids cozy up to you and want to play with you or need you to help with their homework, but you hardly have the energy or the willingness to spend time away from relaxing. You may force yourself, once in a while to engage with the kids or the family in activities. Or you want to get down to completing the work at hand, personal or work related, that has been lagging behind.

Bored yet? Hey, this is the regular life of an average adult. Don’t you see yourself somewhere in there? Well, its regular, its average & it can be boring. That’s where you come in. How do you go about adding the zest into it? There’s not much you can do about how regular life is structured but you can slowly but surely make amends to its nature by consciously making changes. Resolve to change your day to day life for the better in 2013, conscious change for the better. What changes, you may ask?

Think and make a list. Then, follow through with the execution of that list. For example; spend time with your family & kids, get them involved in your life and you involve in theirs. This strengthens the bond between you and cultivates positivity in mutual involvement. Instead of spending time with the TV, play a game of chess or scrabble with the kids. If there is an activity you are inclined toward, perhaps there is something that the family can contribute to. Delegate to them, no matter how small and complete together. Togetherness is key here.

You don’t want to sacrifice your TV time? Find a time that works for all and watch a favorite show together. Make it a habit to have dinner around the table as a family and discuss the day or any topics of choice together. Communication is key here.

Have a hobby and encourage everyone in the family to have one. Pursue hobby time together. Variety is key here.

Just the way you plan your career and work toward it, plan your daily life and work it. Trust me, it’s as important, if not more as your career, for a healthy home life ensures you have a happy and successful life outside the home. Find the themes you want to pursue in your and the family’s daily life, set goals, milestones throughout the year; plan for togetherness, happiness & sharing; cheer for each other while building a great quality of life. Act consciously and track progress. You will be surprised at how much more time and variety you can find within the 24 hour day. Don’t let life fleet by at its own pace and will. Take Control. Well, what are you waiting for? Get started!


Mind over Matter…


I woke up this morning and read about the 4 year old little girl in Syria who was hit by a “stray” bullet while playing in her mother’s lap at home and didn’t survive the next day. Felt a pang of pain and frustration for the little one and her family, hope they all find peace. This is one piece of news we may read or hear about; there is so much we may never hear about….

The human mind never fails to amp up my fascination each time I learn a bit more. The way it is structured to hold long term and short term memories, accepts and absorbs shock, has varying capacity for such absorption from person to person is all very fascinating.

Today, there is a constant influx and onslaught of information through various media – on-line, offline, audio, visual, etc. We tend to use the media we prefer and we follow a path to filter & comprehend; a path traversing; along with the rest of the world, the more populous of news and then, our own realm of likes and interests.

And the news we consume tends to have an impact on us, sometimes minimal and at other times, pretty dramatic. The media it’s consumed in also contributes to the level of impact. A tragedy we come across may have a gloomy impact forcing us to retrospect in its background and a triumph brings us together in celebration, solidarity and brightens the future horizon.

There is so much that happens in the world that doesn’t even hit the visibility angle. What we view, hear or experience is only a subset of what transpires daily in our world, our lives. We simply do not have the capacity to process all that happens, whether known or unknown. But, the least we can do is to judge and react to what we come across and know.

It’s one thing to be a spectator and a totally different thing to decide and act on it; it may just impact ourselves or others we know or an entire community. But, it’s important to react to ensure that what has been processed has an impact and for that matter, a positive one. No matter how insignificant it may seem, any action can play a defining role in minimizing the impact of bad news while significantly contribute to the strength of a good piece of news.

In order to sustain the quality of life we desire and the nature of surroundings we aspire, the people, atmosphere and vibes we surround ourselves with become important. Be in the midst of wise men, you will be wise. Be in the midst of inspiration and goodwill, you will be inspired and will be able to do well. It’s crucial that we attract and comprehend information complementary to our aspired demeanor. This is not to say that you should totally shut out the troubled information. But, with an inspired demeanor that we cherish, non motivating news will not have its gloomy impact on us or our surroundings. In fact, some of our inner happiness and drive will rub off on it and its dark impact may diminish. When a whole community, city or society imbibes this culture of feeling and doing well, the impact of such harsh news will significantly diminish; infact, such news itself may be hard to come by. You might think, I am preaching utopia here. Hey, no one said dreaming of one is wrong and when you are out there to wish well, why not wish for the best!