Making Things Work…..


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In the most trying of times, those that come out, probably tired, exhausted and even with a few chinks in their armor but definitely, triumphant are the ones that work together as a team.

After all, we have all heard that when the going gets tough, the tough get going.

In business or personal life, working together is inevitable. After all, no monumental accomplishment was due to a single person’s effort. Working together can mean tremendous pressure, but if the pressure is faced and the energy channelized to build on the effort, it can mean great experiences, stronger bonds and finally impressive accomplishments for those involved.

With generations to come, and the need for instant gratification, there is less patience in those that interact. Just a tad bit of perseverance; restraint and focus can make things work through interaction, than personal gripes and would mean so much more for everyone together and individually.

Yet, this is hardly understood in colleagues working together or families working on their relationships. Personal egos get the better of everyone and as a result, everyone collectively and individually suffers whether they acknowledge the latter or not.

No matter who you are and what your role, the end goal has to be upheld over personal goals. And eventually, success in togetherness reflects on individual success as well.

So, teams out there that are working on projects 24×7 because, that’s what they demand to get accomplished, work together with complete trust of each other. There will be a time to reflect, work things out between colleagues and gather lessons to improve the next interaction. For now, focus on resolving tasks at hand to accomplish the end goal.

Families and friends, the relationships you cherish are a blessing. Happiness is in giving. Give of your time and attention to nourish and strengthen these relationships. All those tasks that you pile up to get done and seem so urgent vying for your attention can wait a tad bit. You will always have the time in the world to get them done. What you will not is the time to interact with your family and friends. Put them before your chores. Better yet, spend quality time on doing stuff together. You will enjoy such time and tasks get accomplished before you know of the effort put in.

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What if you always received so much more than you expected?


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What if you always received so much more than you expected? Saw an ad on TV at the airport today for some hotel chain that said this.

What if you did? Well, I think it would be exciting for a while to be surprised, but soon that would turn into an expectation. That is where it generally stops but shouldn’t. With such expectation should come greater responsibility, to raise the bar on expectations, to think beyond what is normal at that point in time and to look forward to more surprises that build on the last one. Isn’t faster, better, cheaper what the world is driving toward every single moment.

Now, let’s review the other side of the coin; giving more than what is expected. What if you give more than is expected of you? Give more to your work, your colleagues, your partners, your clients, your family, your pets & yourself. What if you extend yourself a bit more, to give more of yourself, to surprise those expecting from you. Isn’t that possible? Of course, it is. You just need to make up your mind and put conscious effort initially, and before you know, it will become a habit; more so second nature due to the thrill you experience in surprising others, not to mention yourself. Now that the bar has risen, you cannot go back to your old self since that is no longer relevant in view of current expectations. The new “you” is the normal now. And as the new “you” is what those around you are accustomed to, time to raise the bar & share surprises all over. All this is very much possible and puts you on the path of constant improvement & growth, both on your professional and personal fronts. What’s in it for you? You come out stronger & more enriched, enriching the lives of those around you and when you look back at where you started, that will be a distant memory, right at the beginning of a sweet, successful & fulfilling life.

And what did you have to do to make this happen; a conscious decision to surprise those around you by exerting a little bit more than they would expect of you.

Think about it, will you?

Whose side are you on?


“Whose side are you on?”

A question often heard by each one of us, at home when interacting with the family, at work when interacting with colleagues or at social events when interacting with friends.

 Really, “whose side are you on?”

Each of us plays several roles in our daily life. You are a parent, a sibling, a child, a spouse or partner, a colleague, an employee or business partner, a friend, an adversary, a competitor and much more. It’s important that we don each of these different hats as needed. It’s truly amazing how many roles we go through each day. And you thought you weren’t a good actor? Well, rest assured; you are a true to life actor!

In each of these acts, your loyalties differ and hence, your priorities. At home, your family takes precedence and all you do is for the family’s benefit and comfort. Even within a family; over time, different members share a premier part of you, be it your parents, siblings, spouse or children. At work, your time and action is governed by objectives of your organization’s success. On the social front, it’s the relationships you cherish with friends that are at the forefront.

There are times when each of these roles steps on the toes of another and that is when the question arises, “Whose side are you on?” When work keeps you busy and tied down beyond normal limits, neither the family nor friends are amused. Similarly, when you tend to spend more time with friends, the family isn’t happy either. And, if it’s the family taking up all the time, work and friends suffer. It’s a delicate balance that has to be kept up in order to hold onto a sane life.

You are out at work to provide for your family and yourself. When at work, you are representing the interests of whom/what you work for and it’s important that you believe in the same with your heart and soul to be effective at it. Your profession establishes your identity in the world since that is the yardstick the world has chosen to measure people by; what they do. The friends and relations you maintain are a true reflection of your core as a person. There are relationships that are a result of your work and the end result of those is just that, to propagate your work. Do not mistake them for what I am referring to here. The friends I am referring to are the ones whose company you truly enjoy, where you can be yourself and live within your own skin with no expectations on either side. Such relationships are an integral part of maintaining a balance in life. Today, in the world of online social media, you could have hundreds and thousands of “friends”, yet there is a close-knit group that you enjoy spending time with. That group helps you energize to focus on playing the other roles in your life.

Are you spending more time at work consistently? What is triggering this? Are you unable to catch up with your work? Is it now time to re-prioritize? Are you spending too much time out with friends and neglecting family commitments? Are you so engrossed with things occupying family that your work and friends are taking a hit? These are signs to watch out for since it means the balance in your life is tilting somewhere. Such tilt is bound to happen and in more cases than not, its important to have that happen. After all, each of these areas of your life is extremely important. But, it also means it needs to be addressed to set the balance right.

Simply put, work while at work, play while at play and cherish your family all through. That is the mantra of a happy, blessed and successful life!