New Year and Your Resolutions – Make it Happen!


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There is something to be said about New Year resolutions. They come around every year for you to brood over and make them, some new and some probably carry over from the last year.

It’s okay to carry over a few, so long as the past year wasn’t enough to accomplish them or if the timing wasn’t just right. But, to have them show up just because you put them together last year only to forget about them or provide an excuse as to never follow up and lo, here they show up again. That’s a big no-no.

Well, on a positive note, you still seem to have a yearning to get through that them this year. That’s why you remembered and put it on the list this year.

Resolutions are your self-appraisal notes for the year to improve you before it ends. The first task is to put some thought into them and make a priority order of things you want to ensure you achieve during the year. They could be as simple as to dress better, exercise regularly each week and lose a set number of pounds before the year ends to more formidable ones as to save a certain amount of money for the down payment on that new house or new car , make the jump into being an entrepreneur and getting your own company started.

Making resolutions is the easy part. After all, it’s just a list you throw together, right.

More important is to keep them top of mind, each month, and week and day. Make sure you have them written and staring at you everyday. Put them up on your mirror to stare back at you each morning or as the background screen of your computer so you look at them all the time, whatever works for you as a constant reminder. The only way to muster motivation and strength to work on them is to have them right and center, in front of your eyes.

Next, make time each week, or perhaps, every two weeks to go back to your resolutions and evaluate yourself for the time that just went by and your adherence to them. Have you kept up with the work needed to accomplish them? Have you slipped on any? If so, why? What is your excuse to yourself? What can you do different so that you make the effort to not strike one off your list, but make changes in your daily routine, so you get started on that one resolution that you know, you HAVE to accomplish.

Measure, recalibrate and move forward. The harder part is to get moving on the work to accomplish your resolutions. Once you start moving and get inertia out of the way, the momentum and the excitement of the positive results you continue to see will ensure you get through them.

And, what better moment than the euphoria you experience when you have accomplished your resolutions and are in a better place than when you made them and now, you just have more improvement and accomplishments to look forward to!

Happy New Year and all the best with your resolutions! I will see you accomplished over the next 12 months.

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Making Things Work…..


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In the most trying of times, those that come out, probably tired, exhausted and even with a few chinks in their armor but definitely, triumphant are the ones that work together as a team.

After all, we have all heard that when the going gets tough, the tough get going.

In business or personal life, working together is inevitable. After all, no monumental accomplishment was due to a single person’s effort. Working together can mean tremendous pressure, but if the pressure is faced and the energy channelized to build on the effort, it can mean great experiences, stronger bonds and finally impressive accomplishments for those involved.

With generations to come, and the need for instant gratification, there is less patience in those that interact. Just a tad bit of perseverance; restraint and focus can make things work through interaction, than personal gripes and would mean so much more for everyone together and individually.

Yet, this is hardly understood in colleagues working together or families working on their relationships. Personal egos get the better of everyone and as a result, everyone collectively and individually suffers whether they acknowledge the latter or not.

No matter who you are and what your role, the end goal has to be upheld over personal goals. And eventually, success in togetherness reflects on individual success as well.

So, teams out there that are working on projects 24×7 because, that’s what they demand to get accomplished, work together with complete trust of each other. There will be a time to reflect, work things out between colleagues and gather lessons to improve the next interaction. For now, focus on resolving tasks at hand to accomplish the end goal.

Families and friends, the relationships you cherish are a blessing. Happiness is in giving. Give of your time and attention to nourish and strengthen these relationships. All those tasks that you pile up to get done and seem so urgent vying for your attention can wait a tad bit. You will always have the time in the world to get them done. What you will not is the time to interact with your family and friends. Put them before your chores. Better yet, spend quality time on doing stuff together. You will enjoy such time and tasks get accomplished before you know of the effort put in.

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Being Progressive – What does it mean to you?


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When the topic of being progressive arises, thoughts drift toward values, beliefs and positions with a political connotation.

Everyone gets a fair shot, does his or her fair share, and plays by the same rules.

For a moment, let’s leave out liberalism and conservatism and take a look at what being progressive means to you in your life?

What does “progressive” mean to you? And I mean, literally before we embark on a higher theme of beliefs and values.

Let’s take a look at the basics of progress. You are at point A and aspire to get to point B. Moving to point B is progress.

In regular lives, each of us pursue progress, achieve and then, lay down the next set of goals to go after. If you are a kid, getting to the next grade is progress. If in college, graduation and landing a job is progress. Stellar reviews, getting promoted, completing a project successfully to take on a bigger one is progress. Pursuing what you love with passion and excelling at it is progress. If renting, buying your own home is progress. Next, bigger car, bigger house, etc. is all deemed progress.

Now, that’s in your personal life. Let’s take this to the next level and look at ourselves as a community.

What does progress in community mean? Cleaner neighborhoods, better roads, buildings and infrastructure, better technology and connectivity etc.

However, all the progress around us also leads to letting go of where we were, what we did and how we lived. Our past has things that we should let go in order to move ahead but also, has things that gain a new meaning and value as we progress and should be retained. It’s important to recognize that part of our past, savor it and save it for our future generations to cherish. We are in an age and time, where history and future get created at such a rapid pace that there is so much to absorb and evaluate.

As the keepers of our time, it’s up to each one of us to make these decisions based on values we imbibed from our past.

Everyone getting a fair shot is a noble aspiration and one that we may be getting closer to, but is still at an arm’s length in current times. Let’s all hope we will eventually get there sooner than later. The best you can do to shape our mutual future as a civilization, is to contribute, in saving the best of your past and managing your progress diligently. Don’t get stagnated in where you are and what you do. Execute and progress. Set better and higher goals and achieve them. Bask in your achievements of the past, take inspiration and then, turn your sight toward what lies before you. Change is the essence of life. To keep your life fresh, lively and inspired, have an open mind to learn, act and achieve.

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Going on and on – The “not so” secret of success


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A prospective partner that I had been pursing said to me, the other day, “You have the patience of a saint. I am sorry it is taking so long to finalize the deal.”

I had been pursuing this for a while and after maneuvering through several obstacles, we were getting closer to finalizing an agreement. I sat back to reflect, “But, this is what I do. I don’t give up. I just continue till I find closure.”

You have a vision, a game plan, goals and milestones tracked to realize your vision. At a point in time, what you can control is the action you take to get closer to realizing your vision. Act in anticipation of finding success. You may or may not find it instantly or as expected. There are bound to be hindrances, obstacles that need to be surmounted on your journey. Make plans early on for deviations, strategize, effect changes and continue to execute to get closer to your goal.

You have to be continuously on the move. You cannot afford to stop, stare and take no action. You have to act to see results. And, you have to act differently to expect different results from the one you have come across. Have a keen eye on your end goal; however focus on the action at hand. You get closer to your goal, one step at a time. The current action is what you can control. Do your best in what you do now, and then, contemplate on the next step before you take it.

Keep moving, keep going on. Your end goal, has no option but to succumb to your advances.

It is not about being the best, having the most or getting there before everyone else. It is about not giving up, trying again and again, having the patience to reach a goal, fulfill a vision and having the tenacity to see it through.

Being calm and composed, patient, never giving up and always being ready to act will ensure the success you desire.

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What are you afraid of?


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One of the most popular and principal characters of the renowned Indian epic of “Ramayana” is the monkey god, Hanuman. The story goes that Hanuman was bestowed with remarkable powers by the gods, but he was also cursed to be unaware of them. He had to be reminded in the time of need to use them and conquer the seemingly impossible.

The reason I am reminded of that is when I look around, there is so much potential, yet blissfully unaware of what they could do or be.

We turn out to be what our circumstances make of us. Yet, there are those that have battled the odds and their lives have turned into inspiration for others. How so?

Some are driven by purpose, others by fear and yet others, something else. We all have a motivating factor in life, to do better, to excel. Some of us pursue and conquer, others embrace what they confront.

But, each of us has the potential to be much more than we credit ourselves with.

You do not have to pursue just one thing in order to lead a happy life. Focus on not one, two but more things. There are so many flavors life has to offer. Try them out. What you do for 8 hours a day to make a living is fine, if that’s your passion too, better. Pursue other things; you like to sing, sing, you like to write, write. Spend time with your family and friends.

Its human nature to avoid things that you are not sure of, that you are afraid of. Conquer the anxiety and just venture out to do it. Rest assured, you will come out just fine.

How are you ever going to know what you are capable of? If your heart is prodding you to go ahead and do something, do not analyze using your head all the time. Listen to your heart and just do it so you do not regret a missed opportunity at a later time.

I agree that we live in a complex world where sometimes, you have to make situational compromises. But if that dictates what you seek and aspire to do, you will never be done. Take a leap of faith and just go for it. I assure you, life has a way of making sure that things work out. When you look back, you will be glad you did what you had to.

Never question what you are capable of. Why don’t you discover for yourself. You will be amazed at what you find.

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Can you Think Yourself into Your Desired Level of Success?


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During the days when I taught management courses, many a student has asked me, “How do I become as successful in life as I possibly can?” In some cases, the question was, “How do I become as successful as I want to?” The de facto answer was, “Work hard.” And there were several others such as establish goals, pursue them diligently, dream big, focus, plan your work, work your plan, etc.”

Now, in hindsight, I would have given a more introspective answer for them to reflect upon. Not that all said above is untrue; it surely is a requirement for success. But, there are several intrinsic behaviors and patterns that determine the level of success you achieve in life.

It’s often said that in order to be successful at what you do, know your strengths and weaknesses and surround yourself with people who are strong in your weak areas. As a result, you develop a circle of strength from which to operate and find positive results in your endeavors.

However, how do you determine your level of success? I mean, how do you ensure you make a positive impact in the lives of thousands of people versus a few hundred or even tens? How do you build a business that is multi-national than locally or regionally focused? How do you build a billion dollar corporation than one that plays in the hundreds of thousands? How do you land the job you desire in the field of your choice in the organization you aspire to work for? How do you grow your career prospects as you gather experience? How do you move into your desired lifestyle? The answer to this lies in the daily life you cultivate and nurture. In other words, your daily interactions, the people you interact with, the books you read, the inspiration and thoughts you cultivate and the rapport you share with those that have done it before.

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Dreaming big and executing on a roadmap to realize your dream is just not enough. You need to build and interact with the right network, develop a nourishing atmosphere so that you can constantly draw inspiration; all your interactions, thoughts and actions need to be a sum total of this. Draw inspiration to chart your own path, the way you see it. Talk, read, and contemplate on what you aspire to do every second, every minute of your existence. Build on the intensity so that your thoughts are shaped by it which shows in your decisions, your actions and finally in your results.

It’s also often said, “When in Rome, act like the Romans.” Well, this is not about acting like Romans, but about getting to be the King of Rome. Not when in Rome, but on the way to Rome, so you arrive King!

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The Promise Of Hope!


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An entrepreneurial journey.

A creative endeavor.

Graduating from school.

Starting a family.

Raising kids.

Planning your future.

The promise of hope is what keeps the world going! Hope is the magical elixir that keeps the rainbow-hued horizon always bright, no matter the present or past; and rightfully so. The promise of your future should be pursued using lessons from the past and applying them in your present. And, at all times, the promise of the future is always bright!

How else would you find yourself getting up each time you fall, just to work as hard, if not harder in pursuit of your goals, unmindful of all that you have been through so far.

Sometimes, the hue of hope tends to show the future in a skewed rosy tint. Beware! It’s alright to be hopeful but not by being blindsided to the facts of the present. Hope keeps the pursuit of a better tomorrow alive but in order to make that possible, plan your present well and follow the plan, analyze each step you take, make adjustments and corrections to sustain your immediate goals and collectively, these small successes will propel you toward your ultimate goal. The best part is that all this can begin anytime you are ready and there is no better time than now!

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Have your daily life themes planned for 2013?


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You wake up early, probably get some exercise, freshen up & get ready, have a quick bite and grab your coffee on the way out to work. Then, at the office, you spend an entire 8-10 hours tackling what you came for, work. Somewhere in between, you grab a bite for lunch and if you’re lucky, get a coffee during a break. You leave and on the way back, review the day’s proceedings in your head or perhaps, brood over that nasty meeting you endured that noon or mull over how to tackle that timeline problem or resource issue, take your pick. You make it home in the evening, acknowledge your family with a faint smile and go over to freshen up and change. Next, you grab a cup of coffee or your favorite beverage, park yourself in the couch and hit the TV remote. Your spouse wants to share their day and your kids cozy up to you and want to play with you or need you to help with their homework, but you hardly have the energy or the willingness to spend time away from relaxing. You may force yourself, once in a while to engage with the kids or the family in activities. Or you want to get down to completing the work at hand, personal or work related, that has been lagging behind.

Bored yet? Hey, this is the regular life of an average adult. Don’t you see yourself somewhere in there? Well, its regular, its average & it can be boring. That’s where you come in. How do you go about adding the zest into it? There’s not much you can do about how regular life is structured but you can slowly but surely make amends to its nature by consciously making changes. Resolve to change your day to day life for the better in 2013, conscious change for the better. What changes, you may ask?

Think and make a list. Then, follow through with the execution of that list. For example; spend time with your family & kids, get them involved in your life and you involve in theirs. This strengthens the bond between you and cultivates positivity in mutual involvement. Instead of spending time with the TV, play a game of chess or scrabble with the kids. If there is an activity you are inclined toward, perhaps there is something that the family can contribute to. Delegate to them, no matter how small and complete together. Togetherness is key here.

You don’t want to sacrifice your TV time? Find a time that works for all and watch a favorite show together. Make it a habit to have dinner around the table as a family and discuss the day or any topics of choice together. Communication is key here.

Have a hobby and encourage everyone in the family to have one. Pursue hobby time together. Variety is key here.

Just the way you plan your career and work toward it, plan your daily life and work it. Trust me, it’s as important, if not more as your career, for a healthy home life ensures you have a happy and successful life outside the home. Find the themes you want to pursue in your and the family’s daily life, set goals, milestones throughout the year; plan for togetherness, happiness & sharing; cheer for each other while building a great quality of life. Act consciously and track progress. You will be surprised at how much more time and variety you can find within the 24 hour day. Don’t let life fleet by at its own pace and will. Take Control. Well, what are you waiting for? Get started!

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Let bygones be bygones, I don’t think so!


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12/14/12; Newtown, Conn. school incident – Children & Adults killed by an “unwell” 20 year old

It’s been done. All any of us can do now is regret what has happened and try to console ourselves, those around us and those affected; and more so the ones who survive the departed. It’s the cruel truth of the matter for an incident bygone.

But, this shouldn’t be the end of it. There have been too many of these ends. This should be the beginning of introspection. Introspection of our own selves, of the society we live in, how it’s being shaped and what kind of personalities it’s creating. At one end are those that take us, as a civilization to greater heights and on the other end are those that dwindle down into depths unseen before. But do they end up there? No. They drag others along into those depths or leave ugly marks for others to mull over after they have left. What is the cause for such darkness of character, such ugliness where one doesn’t just suffer in silence but goes on to inflict harm on innocent others while on their path to dereliction? Are the trials of achieving more than before, taking steps toward an advanced world creating a wider chasm for the failed ones as well? Are we so focused on the modernization of the world we know that we are neglecting the basic tenets that make us human?

Things we have learnt throughout our lives; courage, passion, kindness, warmth, love & compassion, are they just mere words in a book today? Have we been unsuccessful at passing these values to the younger generations? What is going wrong? How do we rectify it so we do not have to deal with the ugly side of humanity gone wrong anymore? We have had too many of these incidents that at times, I fear that we have developed a pretty thick skin since we move on from incident to incident regretting the wrongdoing. For once, we need to take a stance. Pause for a moment and think. How do we revive “humanity” as we have known it, pass it down the generations and safeguard it with every inch of our being? How do we route out the ill and nurture the sick back to health? How do we enrich compassion for each other and learn to take control of our issues so that we move ahead in our pursuits of tomorrow as one global family, the human kind?

I am keen on learning & sharing. Pray, tell!

My prayer for tonight as I hug my kids – May all those affected by the recent disaster find peace.