It takes a village to raise a child!


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It takes a village to raise a child, they say.

Whether on a job, running a business, when in school or even when raising a family, any pursuit demands constant self-analysis in comparison to the environment around to assess where and how you fit in, to make the most effective impact on what you have set out to do. I have come across many that pay more attention to what they do not know or aren’t the best at than what they do and rock at.

For instance, those with strong technical skills question the business acumen they possess while those with a strong business background, question their technical knowledge. Financial whiz’s’ are uneasy with specific business domain knowledge they work in. Operations stalwarts tone down when it comes to business development.

This is something that I have seen to be very dominant in our times. Being aware of your shortcomings is wise and essential. But, to fret over it is not. Not everyone can be a star at everything they do. What is important is that they make an effort to know about things the best they possibly can so they are, in the least informed, when it comes to understanding how that fits in the big picture and this gives them the ability to make good decisions, many a time in their own work realm.

When you know your preferences, likes and strengths, focus on being the best at them. Do not worry about the rest. In fact, find the best possible help you can get on things that you are not very good at. It’s smart to surround yourself with people who are better than you so that you have that part of what you want to do covered. Now, you can focus on what you are excel at and trust others to focus on what they are good at so, all around, you come out successful. Remember, everything in life is a team effort; no one person did it all!

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Reinventing Yourself!


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They say, you grow when you learn. Give up learning and you have stalled. There are many who deem that their learning days are behind them and that they can fare relatively well in life, using the skills they have learnt so far. Nothing wrong with that except that nowadays no such luxury exists to say that you will get through your earning years on skills you acquired years ago.

Ever evolving technology has sped up the way we have known organizational structures, roles and responsibilities and they, tend to evolve as well. It’s not changes occurring over decades or even years that I am talking about. Now, it’s down to months and days. Keeping abreast of what’s trending in your line of work is the only thing that allows you to survive and be viable, much less excel.

Let’s look at this through another lens that is more personal to you than just the environment around you. You are best served when you are intensely curious, have a sense of wonderment and in the true sense of the word, enjoy what you do. For some of us, our ambition and end goals are crystal clear early on. For others, it takes a little bit of soul-searching, a bit of trial and error before we figure out what we actually aspire to do. For yet others, they simply have no idea and end up doing something and then, learn to accept it. Better yet, they should learn to fall in love with what they are bestowed with and that love opens the door for their aspiration to get better at what they do; not just get better, in fact excel.

But, life is not just about doing what you do best. It’s also about seeking to discover qualities in you that you never knew you had. On your journey to discover the best in you at what you do, you tend to discover a lot more about you. Pursue what you learn about yourself and that will lead to greater opportunities and more than that, a sense of fulfillment and pride for what you are, who you are. And these qualities, when revealed, help open a plethora of opportunities for you to pursue which you had never imagined were available to you and in fact, you are absolutely capable of their pursuit and achievement. That, my friends, is reinventing yourself.

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The astonishing power of “Will”


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Human brain is an absolutely amazing and fascinating creation, a gift that each of us is bestowed with. Yet, there is so little we know about it and such marginal use we get out of it.

Not to say that each of us needs to get into the depths of its potential and know what it can help accomplish. That would actually be, a not so good use of it and furthermore, I believe that its abysmal and infinite to even grasp its potential.

For us, common folk, let’s suffice to say that knowing, it has this infinite depth, boundaries of learning and application, that we can do wonders in our daily lives is enough. Now, knowing that, what can you do to help your brain deliver on its promise to elevate your life to where you thought, it’s impossible, or perhaps very difficult to get to.

As the old adage goes, “its all in the head!” Do you believe that you can think yourself to achieve what you want to? If not, start believing in it now for that’s a fact!

All you have to do is to believe. Have a strong will and constantly think about how to realize it. Your brain will lay down various channels of getting there. It will allow for connections, pursuits and paths for you to follow. What you need to do is to pursue them with blind faith and never give up. Does this mean that your amazing thought power will lead you straight to your goal, without hitting any roadblocks in between? Not in the wildest of your dreams! That is exactly what makes this journey so much more interesting, entertaining and adventurous. You will face roadblocks and experience hills and troughs. All you need to know is not to ever give up on your faith of where your head can lead you. As long as you do that, hidden paths will reveal to you, solutions and shortcuts will show and prod you to take on that wild road which is rarely taken. Your head will lead you to do things that you thought you were hardly capable of, tasks you deemed hard and insurmountable. Now, you will get through them with élan and each task you accomplish will fit like a puzzle piece to reveal the next, getting you closer to your goals.

All you should ask of your self is faith in your faculties and perseverance until you can look back and be amazed at what you have accomplished. And while you are at it, never forget to enjoy the ride for at the end of it, it’s the ride you will have cherished the most than getting to that peak.

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New Year and Your Resolutions – Make it Happen!


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There is something to be said about New Year resolutions. They come around every year for you to brood over and make them, some new and some probably carry over from the last year.

It’s okay to carry over a few, so long as the past year wasn’t enough to accomplish them or if the timing wasn’t just right. But, to have them show up just because you put them together last year only to forget about them or provide an excuse as to never follow up and lo, here they show up again. That’s a big no-no.

Well, on a positive note, you still seem to have a yearning to get through that them this year. That’s why you remembered and put it on the list this year.

Resolutions are your self-appraisal notes for the year to improve you before it ends. The first task is to put some thought into them and make a priority order of things you want to ensure you achieve during the year. They could be as simple as to dress better, exercise regularly each week and lose a set number of pounds before the year ends to more formidable ones as to save a certain amount of money for the down payment on that new house or new car , make the jump into being an entrepreneur and getting your own company started.

Making resolutions is the easy part. After all, it’s just a list you throw together, right.

More important is to keep them top of mind, each month, and week and day. Make sure you have them written and staring at you everyday. Put them up on your mirror to stare back at you each morning or as the background screen of your computer so you look at them all the time, whatever works for you as a constant reminder. The only way to muster motivation and strength to work on them is to have them right and center, in front of your eyes.

Next, make time each week, or perhaps, every two weeks to go back to your resolutions and evaluate yourself for the time that just went by and your adherence to them. Have you kept up with the work needed to accomplish them? Have you slipped on any? If so, why? What is your excuse to yourself? What can you do different so that you make the effort to not strike one off your list, but make changes in your daily routine, so you get started on that one resolution that you know, you HAVE to accomplish.

Measure, recalibrate and move forward. The harder part is to get moving on the work to accomplish your resolutions. Once you start moving and get inertia out of the way, the momentum and the excitement of the positive results you continue to see will ensure you get through them.

And, what better moment than the euphoria you experience when you have accomplished your resolutions and are in a better place than when you made them and now, you just have more improvement and accomplishments to look forward to!

Happy New Year and all the best with your resolutions! I will see you accomplished over the next 12 months.

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Going on and on – The “not so” secret of success


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A prospective partner that I had been pursing said to me, the other day, “You have the patience of a saint. I am sorry it is taking so long to finalize the deal.”

I had been pursuing this for a while and after maneuvering through several obstacles, we were getting closer to finalizing an agreement. I sat back to reflect, “But, this is what I do. I don’t give up. I just continue till I find closure.”

You have a vision, a game plan, goals and milestones tracked to realize your vision. At a point in time, what you can control is the action you take to get closer to realizing your vision. Act in anticipation of finding success. You may or may not find it instantly or as expected. There are bound to be hindrances, obstacles that need to be surmounted on your journey. Make plans early on for deviations, strategize, effect changes and continue to execute to get closer to your goal.

You have to be continuously on the move. You cannot afford to stop, stare and take no action. You have to act to see results. And, you have to act differently to expect different results from the one you have come across. Have a keen eye on your end goal; however focus on the action at hand. You get closer to your goal, one step at a time. The current action is what you can control. Do your best in what you do now, and then, contemplate on the next step before you take it.

Keep moving, keep going on. Your end goal, has no option but to succumb to your advances.

It is not about being the best, having the most or getting there before everyone else. It is about not giving up, trying again and again, having the patience to reach a goal, fulfill a vision and having the tenacity to see it through.

Being calm and composed, patient, never giving up and always being ready to act will ensure the success you desire.

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What are you afraid of?


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One of the most popular and principal characters of the renowned Indian epic of “Ramayana” is the monkey god, Hanuman. The story goes that Hanuman was bestowed with remarkable powers by the gods, but he was also cursed to be unaware of them. He had to be reminded in the time of need to use them and conquer the seemingly impossible.

The reason I am reminded of that is when I look around, there is so much potential, yet blissfully unaware of what they could do or be.

We turn out to be what our circumstances make of us. Yet, there are those that have battled the odds and their lives have turned into inspiration for others. How so?

Some are driven by purpose, others by fear and yet others, something else. We all have a motivating factor in life, to do better, to excel. Some of us pursue and conquer, others embrace what they confront.

But, each of us has the potential to be much more than we credit ourselves with.

You do not have to pursue just one thing in order to lead a happy life. Focus on not one, two but more things. There are so many flavors life has to offer. Try them out. What you do for 8 hours a day to make a living is fine, if that’s your passion too, better. Pursue other things; you like to sing, sing, you like to write, write. Spend time with your family and friends.

Its human nature to avoid things that you are not sure of, that you are afraid of. Conquer the anxiety and just venture out to do it. Rest assured, you will come out just fine.

How are you ever going to know what you are capable of? If your heart is prodding you to go ahead and do something, do not analyze using your head all the time. Listen to your heart and just do it so you do not regret a missed opportunity at a later time.

I agree that we live in a complex world where sometimes, you have to make situational compromises. But if that dictates what you seek and aspire to do, you will never be done. Take a leap of faith and just go for it. I assure you, life has a way of making sure that things work out. When you look back, you will be glad you did what you had to.

Never question what you are capable of. Why don’t you discover for yourself. You will be amazed at what you find.

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The Paradox of Expectations


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“Work hard, you’ll succeed and be prosperous.” What if you do not?

“Study well, get straight A’s; you will land a great job and have a successful career.” What if you do not?

“Follow your passion and you will find success.” What if you do not?

These are ingrained expectations and notions that we grew up with and we continue to pass it along to our children. How sure are we of these? Did your life turn out the way you expected? Did these assumptions work to your expectations? Did you not hit a wall, feel around and find your own way? If not, you are a rare anomaly and I would like to hear your story.

The truth of the matter is that everyone seeks security, shuns insecurity. We all need a great paying job, a nice house to live in, a well fed family, kids in good schools preparing to live the secure life similar to what we wanted, if possible, better.

There are expectations and guarantees needed. If I do this, I need to be assured that. Not just assured, I deserve that! Anything that takes this plan off course causes pain, frustration and doubts. Where does the issue lie?

It lies in setting expectations and seeking guarantees. Is having an expectation wrong? Not at all. Aspirations are good for progress. Have them; imbibe them in your kids. But, leave the path to be traversed open to freedom. Show the path, don’t give guarantees. Show examples of doing what begets what but don’t make promises that you do not have control over.

Freedom to think, act and achieve should be left to the aspirant, the doer. Freedom is costly, comes with the promise of facing fear, risk and failure. But, it also provides the excitement of doing something phenomenal and reaching goals that are new, exciting and further lay the road for the next adventure. The excitement of the unknown, the tension of seeking it out is what living fully is all about.

Do not embrace of preach complacency, don’t draw boundaries with expectations based on performance. With expectations, come disappointments upon not meeting them and as a result, de-motivation. As a result, with the lack of further pursuit, you only fail once.

Leave it as open as the wild, wild, west with no promises of what’s out there. Just know that you’ll have the adventure of a lifetime and you might walk away with the treasure. Well, if it doesn’t happen the first time, you now have lessons learned to keep going forward and those lessons applied, pave a different path taking you on a new adventure, with newer rewards in sight. With a failure behind, there is nowhere to go but forward, for success beyond, eventually to seek out that success.

Seek freedom, pursue freedom, attain freedom for what its worth.

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Can you Think Yourself into Your Desired Level of Success?


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During the days when I taught management courses, many a student has asked me, “How do I become as successful in life as I possibly can?” In some cases, the question was, “How do I become as successful as I want to?” The de facto answer was, “Work hard.” And there were several others such as establish goals, pursue them diligently, dream big, focus, plan your work, work your plan, etc.”

Now, in hindsight, I would have given a more introspective answer for them to reflect upon. Not that all said above is untrue; it surely is a requirement for success. But, there are several intrinsic behaviors and patterns that determine the level of success you achieve in life.

It’s often said that in order to be successful at what you do, know your strengths and weaknesses and surround yourself with people who are strong in your weak areas. As a result, you develop a circle of strength from which to operate and find positive results in your endeavors.

However, how do you determine your level of success? I mean, how do you ensure you make a positive impact in the lives of thousands of people versus a few hundred or even tens? How do you build a business that is multi-national than locally or regionally focused? How do you build a billion dollar corporation than one that plays in the hundreds of thousands? How do you land the job you desire in the field of your choice in the organization you aspire to work for? How do you grow your career prospects as you gather experience? How do you move into your desired lifestyle? The answer to this lies in the daily life you cultivate and nurture. In other words, your daily interactions, the people you interact with, the books you read, the inspiration and thoughts you cultivate and the rapport you share with those that have done it before.

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Dreaming big and executing on a roadmap to realize your dream is just not enough. You need to build and interact with the right network, develop a nourishing atmosphere so that you can constantly draw inspiration; all your interactions, thoughts and actions need to be a sum total of this. Draw inspiration to chart your own path, the way you see it. Talk, read, and contemplate on what you aspire to do every second, every minute of your existence. Build on the intensity so that your thoughts are shaped by it which shows in your decisions, your actions and finally in your results.

It’s also often said, “When in Rome, act like the Romans.” Well, this is not about acting like Romans, but about getting to be the King of Rome. Not when in Rome, but on the way to Rome, so you arrive King!

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The Promise Of Hope!


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An entrepreneurial journey.

A creative endeavor.

Graduating from school.

Starting a family.

Raising kids.

Planning your future.

The promise of hope is what keeps the world going! Hope is the magical elixir that keeps the rainbow-hued horizon always bright, no matter the present or past; and rightfully so. The promise of your future should be pursued using lessons from the past and applying them in your present. And, at all times, the promise of the future is always bright!

How else would you find yourself getting up each time you fall, just to work as hard, if not harder in pursuit of your goals, unmindful of all that you have been through so far.

Sometimes, the hue of hope tends to show the future in a skewed rosy tint. Beware! It’s alright to be hopeful but not by being blindsided to the facts of the present. Hope keeps the pursuit of a better tomorrow alive but in order to make that possible, plan your present well and follow the plan, analyze each step you take, make adjustments and corrections to sustain your immediate goals and collectively, these small successes will propel you toward your ultimate goal. The best part is that all this can begin anytime you are ready and there is no better time than now!

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Is there a short cut to Self-Actualization?


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Maslow must have studied human behavior really well to have propounded the theory of hierarchy of needs. To refresh you with the theory that came about in the 1940s, human behavior is motivated to fulfill needs in the order of Physiological, Safety, Belongingness and Love, Esteem and Self-Actualization.

It is the logical order that keeps the wheels of human interactions going. If you are struggling to fend for yourself, you are always worried about where the next meal shall come from. Once your hunger is satisfied and you have taken care of it, not just for today but also for the near future, you look to the next need of shelter and companionship. Next, you want to defend what you have built for yourself. Living a relatively secure life, you crave for recognition and a status in society. Most of that is achieved with your professional position, extended further into societal placement. All along, it is primarily about elevating yourself in your own eyes. Finally, when you have it all; then, the need to fulfill your intrinsic needs comes into play. This is where your creativity, your interest in self-expression through your passion to the best of your abilities peaks. The goal at this point is personal satisfaction and happiness, oblivious of all that it could entail in terms of name, fame and money. Sometimes, this is also called the point of spiritual realization.

Now, coming back to my question, is there a short cut to self-actualization?

Maslow believed that in order to fulfill the need for self-actualization, all other needs would have to be not only satisfied, but also mastered. On this particular note, I differ. I believe there is a short cut to self-actualization. There are several amongst us that pursue a passion as a profession for the love of it. This allows for their creativity to peak since they enjoy what they do. Happiness and bliss become perennial. Self Esteem is also at its peak or they are oblivious to it. Name, fame & money follow when you excel at what you do. It’s often said that in order to be successful, pursue your passion, not money or other emoluments for when you obsess over them, success eludes you. Every one out to achieve success, dismisses the struggle they go through. They recognize the sacrifices made but do not pay much attention to it, when in pursuit of what they enjoy. Ultimately success happens. In more cases than not, they are oblivious to even success. They practice a passion for the love of it and success, which in worldly terms means the fulfillment of all the other needs follows through. Even if it doesn’t follow through to the extent where you can say that they have mastered the other needs, they really don’t care for they are absorbed in practicing their passion and that itself is success for them. That is self-actualization and it can be independent of the other needs.

As someone said, it’s not the destination but the journey that needs to be experienced and enjoyed. What more can be a better outcome than this?

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