Of late, I have been pretty busy with work in general. There have been several instances where I am tied down at the office and then, pick right back after I return home. Sound familiar, eh! My 4 year old daughter is a definite attention seeker. If she wants me to listen to her or watch her, she sure means it. Over the last few days, I have tried to feign attention while doing my work. She knows it the moment I try. She stops saying what she started and tells me, “Dad, Listen to me.” And until she is sure that I am listening, she will not continue.
The other day, she wanted to show me that she could jump over her mat on the floor. She jumped over and said, “Dad, did you see that?”
I said, “Hmm…Yeah, Great job!”
She replied, “Dad, Look!”
I lifted my head and looked at her feet as she got ready to jump again. She said, “Dad, look at me….and keep looking.”
While I looked into her eyes, she jumped over the mat a few times, all the time, making sure, I was watching.
I made sure, I watched and then, exclaimed over her feat!
All the time, I was thinking of how quick the kids are to notice if you are truly attentive or not. Next followed pangs of guilt for feigning attention that they seek and truly deserve.
It is important to plan your time judiciously between work and life and give each of these the true attention they deserve. Of course, there will be times when one will encroach upon the other, but even during such times, it’s vital to minimize and if possible, avoid inattention or neglect.
I made a pact with myself to spend some pure unadulterated time with my kids the next day. And, that was the best possible time I had with them in a long time. I learnt so much about my own kids and we had much fun together. And the best part, we bonded tremendously.
I am sure you juggle multiple roles in your daily life too. Make a decision to treat work and life with similar passion. Come back and tell me about the exciting surprises life threw at you!