“Be egoless”, “Be humble”, “Being egoless will elevate you towards spirituality”…, how many times have you heard this?
At the same time,
“Stand up for yourself”, “Be individualistic”, “Never let go of your individuality”…, I am sure you have heard this too.
I agree that an individual persona is essential; after all, each one of us is unique. Whether strong or not, each one of us has a self-identity. That is the one distinguishing feature that is to be fiercely guarded and built on.
But, individuality while being totally egoless? Is that possible? You may say, history has given us several leaders who have proved to be strong individuals that, against all odds stuck to what they believed in and hence, were recognized by the world. But, at the same time they did this without any expectation or personal gain which shows that they did not have an ego.
Well, I am not so sure. I think the fact that they stuck to what they believed in does reflect their strong character but, this strong character has to be backed by a high self-esteem with an essence of “I”, which is an undercurrent of ego. Agreed, that these leaders definitely did not have egos that were maniacal and had them in control although there have been leaders with a very strong “I” factor who were more concerned about self gain than anything else. Why in the past; we have so many of them today, not just in the political scene but in business as well.
Self-esteem, ego and self-identity are interlinked and one cannot exist without the other, although their dominance ratios may vary from person to person. They together form the basis of your self, your identity of who you are and the world’s identity of what you are. They together define how you chart the path of your life and what you achieve. Hence, it’s a big positive to maintain a healthy ego. At the same time, your ego should never get the better of you. If it grows to be bigger than you and is not in your control, then; it can do more harm than good.
Maintain the balance in enjoying a health self-esteem, a strong self-identity and a controlled ego in order to ensure a successful personal and professional life. Isn’t that what we are all after, a successful personal and professional life?